I don’t believe it is any solution that when it comes to family gatherings, alcohol is almost constantly concerned. No matter what the lifestyle, most households have their alcohol consumption they serve at getaway and other family reunions. Just as in the Mormons, until alcohol is forbidden within their religion. Where at every vacation, wine and beer is definitely available I undoubtedly originate from the family. I don’t believe some individuals in my family and several other people’s families will be able to withstand some family parties without alcohol.
I myself have gotten to a place where when I get to a family party, I look forward to a glass of wine to sip while I catch up with everyone else. And I love that 2nd or 3rd glass of wine if my extended family starts to get on my nerves. I have come to understand that alcohol is simply a part of family culture when you provide extended family nearer together for an occasion.
However, I do not think it’s difficult to go to a family party and never have alcohol unlike some people I know who does simply be shocked. There are lots of people out there who’ve been through a rough journey and joined into recovery for an addiction to alcohol. These people cannot be exposed to alcohol sometimes, and they should not be omitted from family gatherings just because other people in that family desire to drink. But I have noticed this occur, actually in my own family.
This past Christmas Eve, I had the chance to find out what respecting another’s sobriety at family parties actually is like, what not drinking at a family party feels like. You know what, it isn’t negative, in fact, it is satisfying.
You see, my best friend’s mother is a recovering alcoholic. Her alcoholism caused him plenty of suffering, once we were in high school. However, within the past year or two she has gone to rehabilitation and gone through 12 step applications and has really gotten in manage of her lifestyle and her drinking. She asked my best friend, myself, plus some other family members of hers over to her condominium for a Christmas Event party this past year. And of course, there was no alcohol.
This wasn’t actually discussed before hand. Most of us just realized not to bring alcohol and not to assume alcohol. And the night was great! Used to do not miss not consuming at all. I had been with his amazing family and my best friend. An absence of alcohol might not deter from the great spirits there.
At the conclusion of the night, my best friend’s mother was so very happy to have had us over and also to have observed the holiday in this peaceful way. And I experienced happy that we all honored her sobriety without any concerns or discomforts. This made me think of all the times I have noticed other family members flip their loved ones that are in recovery away since they didn’t need to sacrifice alcohol in a family party, and it made me unhappy.
Family parties are for being with people you adore and honoring a vacation, a birthday, an achievement, an engagement, whatever. It isn’t for ingesting. That may be a great part of it, but it the party can nevertheless be good without it.